Winter

~ Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: it is the time for home. ~ 

Edith Sitwell

 

 

Wishcasting Wednesday

Jamie Ridler from Jamie Ridler Studios developed something called Wishcasting Wednesdays. She sends out a blog prompt for us to complete.

Today's prompt is:  What do you wish to enjoy?

This is a bit tricky! There are so many things I want to enjoy in life! But, I'm going to focus on a couple things that I struggle with at the moment.

1. I wish to enjoy job hunting! I find this a drudgery, quite frankly. I struggle with the fact that my career no longer inspires me so every job I look at seems to be something I don't want! But, I want to enjoy the process, feeling inspired to put out my resume daily. So, that is my first wish.

2. I wish to enjoy the process. What I mean by this is enjoying the process of my life unfolding! So often I'm focused on the end result or worrying about the end result that I forget to enjoy the journey! So, I want to slow down and not worry about what is to come because at the moment I have no idea what is to come!! Enjoying the journey! 


My final thoughts for today:

I decided to drag out some of my oracle cards today. These are cards that have symbols on them. You pick one or more and get a message from them. I find them inspiring and helpful in learning little lessons (or being reminded of them.)

I picked from my Animal Dreaming Oracle Cards. The cards come with a guidebook that tells you the message of the cards. Today I drew the Possum card, Opportunity.

The guidebook states that "Possum inspires us to see opportunity in any condition and to productively harness all opportunities to our best advantage; to gently ride on the back of any circumstantial generosity afforded us until we are comfortably established, after which retreat should be executed in an honourable and discreet manner. ... If Possum has ambled into your cards today, you are being asked to remember who you are and what agreements you made with yourself before commencing your Earth Walk. What did you want to achieve? Where did you see yourself ultimately?"

Hmmmm.... interesting! Taking advantage of the opportunity! So, what opportunities do I have at the moment? Freedom! I'm unemployed and able to take advantage of some freedoms to explore what I want to do! I also have freedoms that I had wished for when I was working, to write and learn. Remembering who I am! Yes! That absolutely speaks to me! I used to see myself as a teacher, a leader. I also saw myself as a writer. So, maybe, for the time being, I need to take advantage of my situation to explore how I can do these things, perhaps for monetary gain even!

I do believe I'm beginning to see how I can enjoy this "job hunting" time of my life! Until next time...

Namaste!

Vision Board for January

So, I finally got my vision board done! Yay!! Ok, here's what's behind all of this. One of the websites I like had a monthly vision board thingy that they do. (ok, it's a life coach's site and it's a project that her clients do.. you can find here at www.jamieridlerstudios.ca.) So, I am hoping make one per month.

I decided my first one would be about work since I'm currently job hunting. The goal of a vision board is to help you focus on what you want and envision it for yourself. This works on the principle that if you can envision it for yourself, your unconscious self will bring about your desire. Or it can be likened to prayer or spell casting... only visual. I find vision boards to be very difficult, mainly because I have so many different things I like that it's hard to keep them focused. Plus, I found when doing this one that I struggled between allowing my feelings to dictate what I did and making it "logical". It's not unusual for my emotional and logical sides to conflict. :)

So, first I got out the materials needed. I had intended on doing something on canvas but my mod podge was all dried out. :( I didn't want to use white glue and rubber cement seemed like overkill. So, I grabbed my big sheet of poster board that I had bought a long time ago for this project. It was covered with dust! (Ah, well... we won't talk about dust).

I cut the poster board into 4ths because, doing this monthly, I didn't want huge sheets of these boards! Here's a pic of my materials...

Ok, then I started cutting out images and words that I liked. I was going to take pics of my "in progress" but got caught up with the project and forgot. I assume if you ever went to Kindergarten, you know how to cut and paste. I used a crafters glue stick (which, was partly dried out... I think it's time to look at my craft supplies!) to glue these on. Nothing fancy!

So, what did I discover? First, it's pretty hard to find work related stuff in the magazines I had! But, I think it was interesting. I started out thinking about all the things that go into being a clinician... all business-like. But, ended up with some very interesting and unusual pictures! So, first the words. Most are pretty "touchy feely" and social work oriented. My past job got me feeling very incompetent. I questioned myself and struggled a lot. So feeding confidence, believing in myself and being stress free were obvious choices. I picked the mind, body, spirit because I work in a holistic manner. Our minds, body's and spirits are interconnected. I picked "Awaken to your Purpose" because it felt to me that I need to figure out my path in my work life... where do I want to go? I obviously want to be "in the know". At my last job I always felt like I was somehow a half step behind. I picked "financial balance" because I would like to make more money but it has to be balanced. It's no good to make lots of money but lose our on all the other things! And last words were "Fit in. Stand out". Seems pretty self-explanatory.

Now, the pictures are the really interesting part. The center picture in pink was actually linked to an article on vision boarding! I liked it because it shows imagining your path and then drawing it to you. That's the point! I then found the picture of the people sharing a present in the upper right hand corner. This reminded me of the human connection and emotion involved in my profession. The writer directly below that reminded me that I would like to move towards writing, teaching or both. Those are my passions. I chose the lady looking through the binoculars because it reminded me to look forward to what is ahead. Yes, I need to be "in the moment" as well but it's ok to dream and embrace the future too! The heart stands for caring for others. (more touchy-feely stuff!). The candles were very peaceful to me and represented that I want my job to give me inner peace and also allow my own light to show. The last picture is of a fairy and that reminded me that I want my job to have a sense of fun and creativity. How that will happen... I don't know yet!

So, there you have it! My first vision board! I need to sit with it and meditate on it more for it to speak to me. One thing I did when looking for pictures is to focus on what leapt out to me! Allowing my unconscious to help decide what would go on here. So, figuring it out more will definitely require some absorption of the collage!
If anyone else decides to do one, I'd love to see it! Until next time...

Blessed Be!

New Hair Cut!

Ok, part of what I want to do with this blog is explore fashion. I'm a plus sized gal and I want to show that we can be as fashionable as anyone! Now, sometimes I do get into a rut or in a mental state where I just don't bother much... but, overall I do enjoy dressing nicely!

So, without further ado.... I got my hair done today. Here is a pic of what I wore to get my hair styled (and of my new hairdo!)

I know that fashion blogs tell you where they got their clothes... so here goes my try...

White long sleeved T-shirt-- Lane Bryant outlet
Green flowered shirt -- Torrid (my first purchase from them... LOVE it!!)
Belt-- also Torrid
Jeans- Lane Bryant Outlet
Necklace-- Just a chain necklace... had it for years  ??

So there you go! What do you think??

Ciao!

Being Human

Sometimes, even with your best effort, you just screw things up. That's life folks! That's part of being human. 

What am I talking about? Well, I have had some issues in the past year and half that have caused me to do some deep soul searching and stretched me to the end. You see, I blurred the line between personal and professional life with some of my colleagues. I trusted and befriended someone I shouldn't have. And it did not turn out well. I thought the friendship was mutual. It was not. I was exploited instead. As a social worker, my clients seem to think that I have a perfect life. I had one client tell me that she wished she was as "together as you are". HA! The truth is that I am human. I do stupid things. I try to make things better and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Real person.... real world. 

Unfortunately, my attempt at correcting the situation resulted in betrayal (mine), deep hurt (mine again), and a very stressed work environment. Did I handle this with grace? Did I say the correct "social workey" thing to make it right? Not exactly. I spent an afternoon in my office sobbing... and many off duty hours as well. I struggled with my emotions. I became angry at my colleague and at myself.... Hooo boy! Was I ever angry! Why couldn't I just suck it up? Why did I have to cry everytime I thought about the situation? Wasn't I strong enough? Answer... sometimes you just need to cry and feel pain. That's how you get over things. And sometimes you have to get angry! And, although there were others who didn't understand and even thought there was something wrong with me, I know that I handled the hurt and subsequent loss of a significant relationship the best way I could have!

I spent a great deal of time questioning myself... questioning my decisions, who I could or could not trust, my career... and yes, even my sanity. It was not a good place to be. I was targeted by some at work and things I said, ended up getting twisted around. It felt like I was suddenly in a majorly dysfunctional family... my work family that is. I felt abused and powerless. And then one day I said to myself, "I'm not going to take this anymore!" I had done nothing wrong, except befriend the wrong person. I didn't owe anyone an explanation for my life, choices, or feelings! I was done being the victim. 

In the end I have had to move on from that place and those people. But, there was something significant in that entire chunk of my life. First, I stayed at a place where it was uncomfortable and faced my fears. Fears that others were talking about me behind my back (they were). Fears that they thought I was a bit crazy (I might have been!). Fears that if others knew the real me, all of the subtle nuances that make me... well, me, they couldn't possibly like me!  And if they didn't like me, then it meant that I was somehow not a good enough person. But, guess what. I stayed and faced the people causing me pain. I stayed and redirected my energy into my work. Some thought I was a bit crazy. Some didn't like me anymore. But, that didn't destroy me like I thought it would. Yes, it was hard. But, it was also a learning experience. I learned that I didn't have to rely on others to determine my sense of worth. I learned that sometimes relationships don't go as we would like them to. I learned to trust myself and my own decisions. I learned that others are also unsure, despite the fact that they come off differently. I learned that people are people... nothing more. Nothing less. 

I have become more self-assured and more loving towards myself than I was. Sure, I still want to live a perfect life... I want to be liked. I want to come across as competent. I want to have great relationships. But when that doesn't happen... as inevitably it will not at some point.... I am more forgiving towards myself. When family members let me down or when I don't react to them in a "therapeutic" way, that's only because we are human. Once my step-mother told me that she thought I shouldn't even be a counselor because I had a bad argument with another family member. I did not take the "high road" but let my anger carry me away. But, she is wrong! I am not a counselor to my family. I am intricately, emotionally and physically connected to family in a way that is not present in my counseling relationships. There is no way that I can be un-biased. It is ridiculous to expect me to stay "in character" during a family argument. I am ok with her assumption that I should somehow be better because I know that being myself, being human, is the best that I can be. I can work on improvement but in the end, I am just me. Flaws and all! 

Be yourself and reflect on the times in your life when you have felt let down by others. Learn to take challenging times as learning opportunities.... even if the lesson is just to be more compassionate... to others... to yourself.

Blessed Be 

Welcome!

Welcome to my life! I may be blogging for my own pleasure and if so, then fine! But, if you find something that interests you, please feel free to comment!

So, where to start?? I think I will start with the fact that I sometimes feel very lost in my chaotic life! Did I create this life? Sure! But, my style seems to lean towards chaos... or at least lack of organization sometimes. I have so many interests in life that I have a hard time actually finishing much of anything without fully focusing on it for a long time. For example, if I start a book, many times I will give up reading it before I'm done. Not because I lose interest... oh no!!.... but because my interest is caught by something else that I feel I must focus on! Perhaps I have Attention Deficit Disorder. Who knows??

Right now I'm attempting to gain some insight into how I want to live my life. How am I doing this? Well, my first project is going to be a dream board. But, the problem arose that I didn't know what to focus on. (I did say Attention Deficit right??) So, I've decided to make multiple boards. I will post pictures of them as I do them. My first board is going to be based on work. Currently I'm out of work and job hunting. My profession is a clinical social worker, which encompasses many different venues. So, I will use my dream board to visualize what type of job I want (or what I think I want!).

In the meantime, check out these links on dream boards!

http://www.qualified-lifecoach.com/Dream-Board.html

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Vision-Board

That's it for now!

Namaste and Blessed Be!